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Seeking Change: Couples Counseling

"Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage."

- Lao Tzu
Relationships are at the heart of what it means to be human. There is nothing that affects our emotional life and sense of self more. Therefore, I feel working with a couple is a very sacred responsibility and a gift of trust.  

Contemplative Psychology describes that we relate with each other through three aspects of our experience: body, speech, and mind. Together, in a neutral, affirming, and safe space, we'll explore how you and your partner make contact in each of these aspects of embodied relationship.  

Here are some examples of questions we might explore:

Body:  What effect do you and your partner have on each other's bodies?  How does your relationship support your physical needs for affection, and how to increase mutual intimacy and pleasure at the body level?

Speech: How do you and your partner use speech (or communication) to attune to each other's feelings and needs, and work out differences?

Mind: What effect do you and your partner have on each other's minds?  How does your relationship lead to growing and thriving? What are you meant to learn from each other, about yourself as well as your partner?

My work with couples is informed by Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples, Nonviolent Communication, Contemplative Psychology, and Lacanian psychoanalytic theory of need, demand, desire, and the Other.

How To Start

Generally, people email me to set up an initial consultation session. The consultation session is a time for us to meet and discuss your situation, think together about what type of treatment would likely benefit you, and make a plan about scheduling.
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