"Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage." Lao Tzu


Couples Counseling:

Relationships are at the heart of what it means to be human. There is nothing that affects our emotional life and sense of self more. Therefore, I feel working with a couple is a very sacred responsibility and a gift of trust.  

Contemplative Psychology describes that we relate with each other through three aspects of our experience: body, speech, and mind. Together, in a neutral, affirming, and safe space, we'll explore how you and your partner make contact in each of these aspects of embodied relationship.  

Here are some examples of questions we might explore:

Body:  What effect do you and your partner have on each other's bodies?  How does your relationship support your physical needs for affection, and how to increase mutual intimacy and pleasure at the body level?
Speech: How do you and your partner use speech (or communication) to attune to each other's feelings and needs, and work out differences?
Mind: What effect do you and your partner have on each other's minds?  How does your relationship lead to growing and thriving? What are you meant to learn from each other, about yourself as well as your partner?

My work with couples is informed by Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples, Nonviolent Communication, Contemplative Psychology, and Lacanian psychoanalytic theory of need, demand, desire, and the Other.

Parenting Support:

In addition to psychotherapy and couples counseling, I provide parenting support sessions to parents in need.  

  • If we did not get the parenting we needed as a child, the already difficult job of parenting can feel impossible.  
  • We may find ourselves struggling to relate with, understand, or communicate with our child.  
  • We may find the new parenting roles in our life, such as nurturing or disciplining, to be uncomfortable and anxiety-provoking.
  • We may fear our past experiences with our own parents to be playing out in painful ways with our child.  

Parenting support sessions can help when the demands of parenting begin to impact the parents' relationships and personal goals.  My work with parents is informed by attachment theory, psychoanalytic and child developmental theory, as well as Bowenian family systems theory.  

contact: trevor@slocumcounseling.com    (206) 309-4224